Without giving any second thought, the best feeling in the world is when you do something for someone. It is that one factor that makes this world a wonderful place it is today. Honestly, I feel happiest when I’ve done something nice for someone.
Don’t believe me? Then please don’t just take my word for it. Try it. And realize for yourself. The next time you discover an opportunity, take that initiative and perform the respective act of kindness for someone (that can be even a stranger). And then notice how it makes you feel.
The best way to give to someone is without expectation. Yes, you read that right, expectation that you will get something in return. The reward for giving something is a simple, but powerful, sense of joy. In fact, when I’m in the giving or kindness mode, I often get crossed by the famous quote of great Louis Armstrong in my subconscious:
“And I think to myself, what a wonderful world”
A few months ago, I was having dinner at a wonderful eatery at a hotel in Hua Hin, Thailand. It was a tough day for me and I was tired due to work. Soon after I got comfortable with my appetite, I noticed a couple dining a few tables away. I don’t know what caught my eye, but watching them I could feel that they were completely into each other and it made me feel good. I overheard their conversation with the waiter and discovered that they were on honeymoon. A second later, I caught my eye on their held hands. Then the man clinked his glass softly and made a toast. The way his wife joined inspired me and I was moved by their obvious affection for each other.
On finishing my meal, I called the waiter over and told him that I wanted to pay for the couple’s dinner. I asked him to bill their meal to my room and asked him to add a generous tip for himself as well. I also requested him not to reveal my name and handed him a note to give to them when they left. The note said: “One could tell at first sight that you both belong together. I wish you peace and joy in the upcoming future.”
The next morning, I found a note on the floor by my door. It was from the waiter:
Dear Mr. Singh,
I believe what you did last night was a wonderful gesture, and it carried a true impact on the newlyweds. When I told them that someone paid for their dinner, they were surprised. But when they read your note, they were overwhelmed with emotion. Then they explained to me why your note had such an effect on them.
The newlyweds are having a tough time at home. For reasons they didn’t disclose, their families, including children from their previous marriages, are not too keen on them getting married. So, rather than having a wedding ceremony filled with family & friends who really didn’t want to be there, they decided to come to Hua Hin in order to get married.
They said that they made a toast and asked for a sign that they did the right thing from God. You, Mr. Singh, were the answer to the prayers they made.
They said you confirmed, through divine guidance, what they already knew about each other. They asked me that if I ever meet you again, to please tell you, thank you. Thank you! For being their messenger of hope.
Growing up in a city like Delhi, I’ve been called a lot of things in my life, but never a ‘messenger of hope’. Due to some strange reason, I liked the sound of it.
The point is, we all have opportunities to be messengers of hope for someone, if not every day, SOMEDAY. These acts of kindness are spontaneous gestures that are driven by a sense of connection with other people. It also drives a realization that we’re all dependent on each other (as mankind) as we go through life.
It’s really our higher self’s way of reminding us that this is what life is all about.
When we give of oneself, though, we are giving to ourself. It gives us a sense of hope in a world that sometimes seems hopeless.